New Year, New Life, What Happened Over the Holidays

The last post I wrote for this blog was on 16 December 2019. And here it is 16 January 2020. Ha ha! I didn’t consciously know that when I sat down to write this. I had to look up the date of the last post.

I was planning to restart this blog with a new post on Monday, 6 January, but as I sat down to write my computer responded by having a panic attack. Really. A notification window came up with many lines of code that started with PANIC. So I called Tech Support and they told me to shut it down and take it to my nearest Apple Store right away. They even made an appointment for me. I had to leave my computer with them for three days. But when I got it back, they had completely wiped its hard disk clean and put in a new system. I had to spend a day uploading all my data and programs from my backup, but my computer is now like new. All the nagging problems are gone.

I learned a lesson from this experience.

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Celebrating Winter Solstice

Today is the first day of Winter Solstice.

I say “the first day” because Winter Solstice is the longest night and the shortest day of the year, and the length of day is within a minute from day to day for a period of days. So I celebrate Winter Solstice for ten days instead of one.

For some years now, I take those Winter Solstice days off from my work and enjoy the depths of winter.

For me, that means reveling in the dark and cold while at the same time carrying forward the light through the time of darkness, as has been the purpose of Winter Solstice for I don’t know how long. The famous Yule log originally was a log large enough to burn all through the longest night, to carry the light of the sun through to the new year.

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Length of Day


Yesterday I woke up wondering if today was the first day of Winter Solstice. I felt like solstice had begun for me, but wasn’t completely certain about what was going on with the sun.

So I looked it up on Time & Date. They have a page called Sunrise, Sunset, and Daylength which shows the day length for any place in the world on any day.

As I said in Celebrating Winter Solstice, the length of day is within a minute from day to day for a period of days. So I celebrate Winter Solstice for ten days instead of one. But I was in a different location, so I didn’t know how that would affect my Winter Solstice calculation.

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We Have a Human Right to Life

Today is Human Rights Day. It is observed every year on 10 December — the day the United Nations General Assembly adopted, in 1948, the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. This document proclaims the inalienable rights to which every human being is inherently entitled, regardless of race, colour, religion, sex, language, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status. Available in more than 500 languages, it is the most translated document in the world.

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Fitting Right In to Life

Today Larry and I were driving to an appointment and while we were driving, I was just looking around admiring Life as we were passing by. I’ve noticed that since I’ve been writing this blog, and especially since I went through my big shift I have been being more aware of life around me. Instead of having much of my attention on buildings and shops and cars as we drive down the street, I’m seeing trees and animals and clouds and other elements of life, both more life and more detail about the life-forms I am aware of.

And so, while we were driving around, I was noticing the vivid colors of the autumn leaves in contrast to the grey skies.

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Sleep as Nature Intended

About ten years ago, I read a fascinating book that changed my ideas about sleep. Since we are approaching the Winter Solstice and many life-forms are below ground or hibernating, I thought I’d tell you about human sleep in pre-industrial times.

The book is At Day’s Close: Night in Times Past. It looks at night from every angle.

In our industrialized world, the idea is promoted that we should “sleep peacefully through the night” and if we don’t, there is something wrong and we need a sleep aid. Both drugs and natural remedies are sold to help us achieve this goal.

But, in fact, that we should sleep through the night is an industrial idea, maybe made up to sell more sleeping pills?

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Getting a Haircut

Lately I’ve been thinking it’s time to get a haircut. I actually haven’t had my hair cut in over a year. It’s been getting long again and I’ve been considering leaving it long.

It seems that all throughout history women wore long hair (and men did too). It seems that women didn’t begin to cut their hair short until the 1920s, less than 100 years ago. At the same time hair salons for women were established.

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Unexpected Gifts

When I was a child, Christmas gifts were a big deal.

My mother put up a gorgeous Christmas tree every year—a copy of a tree she had seen in a fancy department store in New York City. And under the tree were gifts and gifts and gifts. My brother and I each had twenty or thirty gifts. And they would be opened one by one and each gift passed around for all to see. Yes, it took all morning, and no, I don’t come from a wealthy family. My mother just saved up any and everything we needed starting in September or so, so some of the boxes contained underwear or socks or crayons…whatever she would have given us in the course of daily life, she instead waited until Christmas and put it in a box. And she wrapped every single one with beautiful paper and ribbons.

We did our part to keep the industrial economy going every Christmas.

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The Importance of Importances

This week I’m working intensively on completing The Lifely Group website over the Thanksgiving holiday, so i can go live with it early next week.

Given this short deadline, I’m finding myself looking at what is most important to do this week, and what can be put off until later or eliminated entirely.

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Retailer REI Counters Consumerism on Black Friday

REI is a major retailer of clothing and equipment for outdoor enthusiasts. And as such they have a dilemma. They want to encourage getting outdoors—whether for a walk around a park or an extreme adventure—but having those outdoor experiences require clothing and gear in order to be safe and comfortable. And they have come up with some interesting solutions.

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uite simply, this blog is about orienting ourselves and our lives to life, instead of orienting ourselves and our lives to industrial consumerism. Here we are sharing our own journey. You come too.

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Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight we research, explore, observe and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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