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A Lifestyle Based in Life

Thank You Ruth Bader Ginsberg

Ruth Bader Ginsberg

Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg left her body over the weekend after a life well lived.

She made an immense contribution to our society by standing up for citizens of all genders to have equal rights under the law.

After experiencing discrimination as a Jew and a woman early in her life, she used her skills as a lawyer reforming the laws of the USA to be gender-equal.

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Extreme Natural Disasters

I’ve never experienced a summer like this, and I have lived in California for 65 years (except for 15 years when I lived in Florida).

There have been so many natural disasters—and so many have been unusual or extreme—that I want to say a few words.

I had to write this today after waking up this morning with an orange sun against an orange sky.

Before I go any further, I want to give you the definition of disaster…

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Pay It Forward

One day last week Larry and I were in a big box store. We had purchased a few small items we needed and had just put them on the conveyer belt at the cashier. I was in my wheelchair because of my broken kneecap.

While my items were moving down the belt, suddenly a woman stepped in front of me and placed her items on the belt between me and my items.

“Excuse me,” I said, “Those are my items the cashier is about to ring up. Could you move so I can pay for them?

“No,” she said, with a big smile, I am going to pay for them for you!”

This totally surprised me!

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Being Alive

After almost two months of lying in bed doing very little other than keeping my broken knee from bending, reading, and thinking, today I am noticing feeling alive again.

What that means for me is wanting to actually DO things again. I am wanting to create and communicate with the world, rather than be in my own inner world of focusing on body repair.

I’m mentioning this because there is a definable state of aliveness.

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What I Learned About My Body While Healing My Broken Kneecap

It started on on 19 July 2020, when my body tripped and fell and my left kneecap broke. I had never broken a bone in my body before.

It tales eight weeks for a bone to heal. So I’ve basically been lying in bed for the past eight weeks. Tomorrow I’m starting four weeks of physically therapy, and then I should be able to walk again—at least around the house. I won’t be climbing Mt Everest any time soon, but I should be able to walk around the farmer’s market instead of having Larry push me in the wheelchair.

The first week was just about dealing with the pain…

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Being A Team

Today is marks thirty-three years of being a couple. We’ve been through a lot together and have had our ups and downs, but today we are happier than ever and our relationship keeps getting better and better.

In this post, we are sharing what we’ve learned about being a team. We’ve each written a part and together they convey the whole concept.

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Sustainable Marriage: How Living Together Sustains Life

This post is about how sharing a household as a couple contributes to sustaining life in a way that cannot be done by a person living alone.

About ten years ago I saved this clip. I don’t remember where it’s from.

The fastest growing type of household in Canada is the single person. The new solo-living cohort are young (25 to 44), far more flush than the thrifty jar-reusing widows that once ruled the one-person roost and, the biggest consumers of energy, land and household goods. Now that their numbers are shooting up, people who live alone represent, what a sustainable development professor at University College, London, calls ‘an environmental time bomb.’ From washers to toasters, singletons burn through just over twice as much energy per capita as those who live in a four-person household. A provocative thought.

But this week, when I searched on “sustainable marriage” I could find nothing. Oh, there were articles with the title “Sustainable Marriage” but they were all about sustaining the marriage itself, not about how marriage sustains life.

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On Being a Homemaker

Even though I was born in 1955, I was not raised to be a homemaker.

Like many other women of my generation, the women’s movement came along and convinced me that there were more important things to do than make a home for myself, a husband, and a family. In addition, my mother was a piano teacher and our house her studio. Her self-employment gave our family economic benefits, but she didn’t make for us a home.

My early years, however, were not completely without role models. I had two grandmothers who were wonderful homemakers.

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uite simply, this blog is about orienting ourselves and our lives to life, instead of orienting ourselves and our lives to industrial consumerism. Here we are sharing our own journey. You come too.

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Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight we research, explore, observe and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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