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A Lifestyle Based in Life

3 Poems by American Poet Robert Frost


On Thursday evening at twilight I was sitting in a rocking chair on the front porch of the house where Larry and I have been living for the past three years. I was sitting there because I was waiting and watching while the technicians were transferring my computer-phone-television service from the main house to my office in another building Across the courtyard.

I was just peacefully sitting there as the day was ending and all my communication tools were leaving one place and being installed in another, and what came to mind was a poem by Robert Frost called Choose Something Like a Star.

I had my cell phone in my hand and I looked it up. I once knew this poem by heart because I sang this poem set to music when I was in a choir, but that was many years ago.

But then I was interrupted. When I finally read the poem later that evening, I was astonished at how relevant this poem is for today and decided to write a post about it.

When I awoke the next morning it, it was clear I needed to post not one, but three poems by Robert Frost. So here they are.


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Seeing Beyond the Industrial World

I have been having this idea come up over and over and yesterday it came up three times in different ways, so I thought I had better write about it.

The first time this came up recently was a couple of months ago.

Larry and I were standing in a parking lot that had a range of hills on one side and a lot of sky above. He had his back to the hills and I was facing the hills talking with him. And then I looked up and suddenly I was no longer aware of the parking lot, I was aware of being in Nature. And I began to see the sky and the birds and the trees and feel the warmth of the sun on my body and the gentle breeze. One minute I was standing in an industrial parking lot and the next I was standing in Nature.

It was just a shift of awareness, but that shift gave me a whole different viewpoint. I could see the backdrop of Nature that is there all the time, but we often aren’t aware even exists.

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Windy Days


Last night it was very windy here. Larry and I were lying in bed commenting on how windy it was. We checked a local news show to get the weather report, but they really didn’t give any information about our particular place.

So we turned to the Beauford Wind Scale, which allows you to estimate wind speed by observing the effects of the wind on trees.

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What an Ecological Civilization Looks Like

Image credit: Yes! Magazine

There is a magazine called Yes! that has been around for many years. It began in 1996, exploring positive things we can do in our daily lives that help social and environmental issues. They have articles by many writers with various viewpoints. I don’t always agree with everyone about the solutions, but I keep an eye on them as part of keeping informed about what is going on in the world related to what we do.

The Spring 2021 issue is What an Ecological Civilization Looks Like.

They say, “The path toward an ecological civilization moves us from an uncivilized society based on selfish wealth accumulation to one that is community-oriented and life-affirming.”

Hmmm. That sound like just what we are doing with Lifely.

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BIG SHIFT: Stepping Into a World of My Own Creation

From time to time I take a break from my regularly scheduled programming to write a post about a shift that has occurred in my own personal life, as a result of my journey from industrialization to nature. Read about other shifts that have occurred since I started the Lifely blog in Jun 2019 here.

This past week there have been some big changes in my life, since completing the metamorphosis of my website into a new design.

This past week there have been some big changes in my life, since completing the metamorphosis of my website into a new design.

I want to tell you about the changes because this Lifely blog is, for me, as much about sharing with you a process of change from industrialization to nature as it is to orient you to Life itself.

But before I tell you what happened this week, I need to tell you what has come before.

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Larry and I have been together for thirty-three years.

We have had our ups and downs as all couples do. What is perhaps different about us is that we have been married twice and divorced twice to each other and are still together, making our way through life.

In 2013 we were living in Florida. We had divorced for the second time, and were living apart. Then Larry fell out of a tree while doing some tree work. He fell some twenty feet and broke his back and right leg. After several surgeries and months in the hospital it was time for him to go “home,” but my home was no longer his. And I could not take care of him 24 hours a day and also work to earn income. So it was decided he would go live in California with his parents and two siblings, where there were plenty of people to take care of him while he recovered. His last words to me as he was wheeled out the door were, “When I can walk, i’ll be back.”


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How We Experience Love

It’s coming up on Valentine’s Day this Sunday so we wanted to write about love.

First, though, we want to say that we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day in the usual industrial way. Roses from the industrial floral industry and industrial chocolates are not important. For more than thirty years we have celebrated Valentine’s Day by spending the day together celebrating our love. The most important thing to us is to give each other time and attention doing a shared activity we both enjoy.

For us, love goes beyond physical attraction or intellectual agreement. It is a spiritual connection that truly is infinite and eternal. We really do live in love from day to day. We have loved each other for thirty-three years and expect to love each other for the rest of our existence. We just go through daily life in the context of the love we share.

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To Hate or To Love—That Is the Question

Over the last several years, and particularly recently, there seems to be an escalation of hate going on in America, and indeed, in the world. So we want to say a few words about hate and many more words about love.

The dictionary definition of hate is

intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury.

Certainly, the actions of some people recently have come from fear, anger, or sense of injury.

Our definition of hate is

intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from the absence of love.

There is no hate in Nature.

Love is our natural state as human beings, in fact, the very essence of humanity is love.

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Mother Nature Slams the Oil Industry With Covid Pandemic

Last week the New York Times reported that, collectively, the oil industry lost tens of billions of dollars in 2020 due to…covid-19. A virus has brought the most powerful and most polluting industry to its knees.

“The pandemic was largely to blame,” said the article. “It sapped demand for gasoline, diesel and jet fuel as countries and states locked down and people stayed home. But such painful years could become more commonplace as growing concerns about climate change, tighter regulations, and the rise of electric cars and trucks force a reckoning for an industry that has dominated the global economy over much of the last century.”

To make matter worse for the oil industry, General Motors also announced that they aim to do away with internal combustion engines altogether and sell only electric cars and trucks by 2035.

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Sir David Attenborough Says There is Still Time To Save the Human Species

Larry and I have mixed feelings about Netflix. There are times when we can’t find anything of interest to watch and other times we find some of the best programs we’ve ever seen.

One of the best programs is a Netflix original documentary David Attenborough: A Life on Our Planet in which the iconic broadcaster recounts the 93 years of his life as he watched the degradation of the planet over his lifetime. As always there are many clips of gorgeous footage of the natural world. But by the end of the documentary, Larry and I could see through our own eyes how rapidly the planet has been being destroy even in our own lifetimes of 65 years.

Attenborough established without question that the cause of this degradation is the industrial lifestyle and production methods of industrialization. He makes the case for Lifely very clearly.

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Quite simply, this blog is about orienting ourselves and our lives to Life, instead of orienting ourselves and our lives to industrial consumerism. Here we are sharing our own journey. You come too. Read more...

Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight, we research, explore, observe, and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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