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A Lifestyle Based in Life

How I Got What I Needed This Morning By Using Co-operation

I had an unexpected and difficult situation yesterday afternoon when I went to my community credit union to open an new business account.

I was told nobody was available. And the people that could help me with that were all booked for the day. And the first day someone would be available would be next Wednesday, 23 November.

I was surprised and confused and upset. In my entire 65 years of life I have never not been able to walk into a bank and open an account on the spot.

But these are different times.

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Anything is Possible

Tightrope walker Nik Wallenda walks over Niagra Falls

Larry and I are taking off on Saturday to our [Utopia]= to housesit for almost three weeks.

I’ve been emailing back and forth this week about arrangements and things I might need to bring.

Yesterday I emailed that I wanted to set up my computer in the room with the wood stove and view of the forest. And I wanted to know if it was possible to get the internet connection in that room with my ethernet cable. If not, would there be wi-fi.

This morning I received the reply:

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Real Satisfaction

This week I had a deep realization about the true nature of satisfaction.

It occurred while I was testing a recipe for my Wholefood Cuisine blog so I wrote the story there, but I want to share it here with you because it applies to all areas of life.

Here’s what I learned.

There are two levels of satisfaction.

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Actions Speak Louder Than Words

This past week has been extraordinary in terms of the number of kindnesses that have come my way. Not that people are not generally kind towards me, but there was just a general increase in the number of kindnesses inflowing to me…well, now that I am observing what happening, there was a general increase in the kindness naturally outflowing from me as well.

But it was more than just the number of kindnesses, it was also the magnitude of the kindnesses. Yesterday, for example, two people offered to send me money in advance of when I was expecting it from them, without my even asking.

When I awoke this morning, the first thing I thought was “actions speak louder than words.” It’s an old saying but it’s true. And my realization about this, this morning, was that actions are a form of communication, and I hadn’t been paying attention to it as a form of communication.

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My Autumn Trees

Here in Sonoma County, California, we have a lot of trees. We have natural forests and many trees that have been planted.

I live at the end of a lane where some trees are native and some have been planted, but regardless of their origins, during the autumn season I have noticed a parade of color through October and November as the leave come to the end of their cycle and begin to fall to the ground.

This morning the red trees began to show their color. As we were driving home from our morning errands, I was noticing the trees (how could I not—they were so doing their best to attract my attention!).

And suddenly I said to Larry, “What is the name of that tree?”

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The Night a Tree Didn’t Fall on Us, the Day a Hurricane Didn’t Hit Our House, and Other Times We Were Safe When the World Around Us Was Not

Larry and I survived the magnitude 6.9 Loma Prieta earthquake in 1989, mist a wide-are of destruction.

I was prompted to write this by a conversation I had this morning, with a friend I have known for many years.

She remembered something I had written years ago when I was living in Florida, about redirecting hurricanes. Which Larry and I did. During one of the hurricanes we experienced while living there, a powerful hurricane was forecast to hit us directly. We were ordered to evacuate but decided the best place for us was right in our own home. Many other local residents evacuated to a county to the east. We sat and watched the hurricane approach on TV, and just at the last minute it veered east and hit all our neighbors who had evacuated.

She asked me about rerouting other natural disasters and specifically, could I reroute an earthquake, which was her greatest concern since she lives in San Francisco and a once-every-100-years magnitude earthquake was now 15 years overdue.

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Dependence, Independence, and Interdependence

With all the problems we have been having in our nation this past year, I have had a lot of attention on what “laws of Life” I can offer that would improve our social relations. I am working on this subject, and today I want to give you a first piece.

It has to do with dependence.

Dependence has to do with whether or not something is determined by itself or by another. There are actually three levels of dependence.

DEPENDENCE is about relying on another for support.

INDEPENDENCE is having your own ability to rely on oneself for support.

INTERDEPENDENCE is having your own ability to cooperate with others so everyone is supported.

As we progress through our lives, there is a natural evolution through these three levels…

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To Be or not to Be


To be, or not to be, that is the question…

—William Shakespeare


When Prince Hamlet asked this question in the famous soliloquy, he was contemplating whether he should continue to live or take his own life.

That is NOT the subject of this post.

Here I am asking what it means to BE or not BE while we live our daily lives. This question came up for me while I was writing Thoughts on Being an American Citizen.

What does it mean to BE?

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uite simply, this blog is about orienting ourselves and our lives to life, instead of orienting ourselves and our lives to industrial consumerism. Here we are sharing our own journey. You come too.

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Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight we research, explore, observe and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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