To Hate or To Love—That Is the Question

Over the last several years, and particularly recently, there seems to be an escalation of hate going on in America, and indeed, in the world. So we want to say a few words about hate and many more words about love.

The dictionary definition of hate is

intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury.

Certainly, the actions of some people recently have come from fear, anger, or sense of injury.

Our definition of hate is

intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from the absence of love.

There is no hate in Nature.

Love is our natural state as human beings, in fact, the very essence of humanity is love.
 


How Trees Cooperate So the Whole Forest Can Thrive


 
A couple of weeks ago Larry found a film on amazon prime called Intelligent Trees. [This link goes to amazon prime, but I see it is also available elsewhere].

It contains the findings of German forester Peter Wohlleben and Canadian scientist Suzanne Simard , who have been observing and investigating communication between trees for decades. Yes, communication between trees.

They have scientifically observed that trees do not stand alone, but have “friendships” and form “families” in their natural forest habitat. “Mother” trees help “child” trees grow.

And trees of different species help each other as well.
 


How I Got What I Needed This Morning By Using Co-operation


 
I had an unexpected and difficult situation yesterday afternoon when I went to my community credit union to open an new business account.

I was told nobody was available. And the people that could help me with that were all booked for the day. And the first day someone would be available would be next Wednesday, 23 November.

I was surprised and confused and upset. In my entire 65 years of life I have never not been able to walk into a bank and open an account on the spot.

But these are different times.
 


Pay It Forward


 
One day last week Larry and I were in a big box store. We had purchased a few small items we needed and had just put them on the conveyer belt at the cashier. I was in my wheelchair because of my broken kneecap.

While my items were moving down the belt, suddenly a woman stepped in front of me and placed her items on the belt between me and my items.

“Excuse me,” I said, “Those are my items the cashier is about to ring up. Could you move so I can pay for them?

“No,” she said, with a big smile, I am going to pay for them for you!”

This totally surprised me!
 


Being A Team


 
Today is marks thirty-three years of being a couple. We’ve been through a lot together and have had our ups and downs, but today we are happier than ever and our relationship keeps getting better and better.

In this post, we are sharing what we’ve learned about being a team. We’ve each written a part and together they convey the whole concept.

 


Sustainable Marriage: How Living Together Sustains Life


 
This post is about how sharing a household as a couple contributes to sustaining life in a way that cannot be done by a person living alone.

About ten years ago I saved this clip. I don’t remember where it’s from.

The fastest growing type of household in Canada is the single person. The new solo-living cohort are young (25 to 44), far more flush than the thrifty jar-reusing widows that once ruled the one-person roost and, the biggest consumers of energy, land and household goods. Now that their numbers are shooting up, people who live alone represent, what a sustainable development professor at University College, London, calls ‘an environmental time bomb.’ From washers to toasters, singletons burn through just over twice as much energy per capita as those who live in a four-person household. A provocative thought.

But this week, when I searched on “sustainable marriage” I could find nothing. Oh, there were articles with the title “Sustainable Marriage” but they were all about sustaining the marriage itself, not about how marriage sustains life.