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How We Experience Love

Debra & Larry Redalia

It’s coming up on Valentine’s Day this Sunday so we wanted to write about love.

First, though, we want to say that we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day in the usual industrial way. Roses from the industrial floral industry and industrial chocolates are not important. For more than thirty years we have celebrated Valentine’s Day by spending the day together celebrating our love. The most important thing to us is to give each other time and attention doing a shared activity we both enjoy.

For us, love goes beyond physical attraction or intellectual agreement. It is a spiritual connection that truly is infinite and eternal. We really do live in love from day to day. We have loved each other for thirty-three years and expect to love each other for the rest of our existence. We just go through daily life in the context of the love we share.

For us love is soul-to-soul. It’s not physical or mental, so we can love anyone and everyone regardless of their actions or beliefs. We just love them as a being. We know that each human beings can give and receive love. It’s natural and inherent in us. Loving others wakes up or increases their own ability to love.

We’ve found that love is something within ourselves that outflows to another or into the world. In our industrial consumer society we are taught that we need to look for love from another as if it is missing in us. But that’s consistent with the industrial view where individuals can do nothing and everything must be provided. No. We are each full of unlimited love to give wherever we wish to give it.

When we love someone or something it actually awakens a number of feelings. For us, these include:

  • we are able to see the basic good in each other—even when one of us forgets, we both know it's there
  • we want to be with them all the time
  • we want to be physically close, not far away
  • we want to take care of them
  • we don’t want to hurt them
  • we want to protect them from harm of any type
  • we want them to last a long time
  • we want them to thrive
  • we want to share whatever we have with them—our love, our thoughts, our feelings, our possessions
  • we want to communicate with them
  • we want them in our life
  • we want to create with them
  • we want them forever
  • we want to express kindness to them
  • we are willing to work through problems together to arrive at a solution that works for everyone
  • we extend goodwill toward them.

And there are probably more to add to this list…this was just off the top of our heads. And this is whether the object of our love is a person, a car, or a planet. We experience love between each other but we also express love to everyone we interact with. We love all humans as beings, regardless of their ideas or feelings or wealth or any physical characteristics. We love every form of Life throughout the universe. It is our natural state as human beings to love. We love you.

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Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight, we research, explore, observe, and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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