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Next Steps for My New Future

Debra Redalia

On my 65th birthday, an unexpected door opened.

Last Thursday, June 18, was my birthday.

My 65th birthday.

I’ve had birthdays before. Usually they come and go. Larry and I usually take the day off on our birthdays and do something special. We go out to eat. We have cake.

On my 16th birthday I got my driver’s license. But usually birthday’s just pass by.

So I wasn’t expecting what happened on my 65th birthday.

So many things shifted, it has taken almost a week for me to be able to even write them down.

From Adult to Senior

I knew 65 was coming and there would be some changes. I would now be a senior citizen, but what I didn’t realize until the very day of my birthday was that I was no longer an adult.

I had already been preparing for this for a few year, in fact. I had spent my entire adulthood working to help people avoid toxic chemicals, and last year on my birthday I retired from that work to start this blog and others to orient my life to Life instead of to industrialism. Prior to that I had already sold my house and Larry and I moved in with his Mom, to help her continue to live independently at age 88.

Just in general I have been moving away from my adult life and toward a new life, defined by myself and the workings of spirit and nature.

But on my birthday, a door opened that I didn’t know was there. It was the door to “beyond adulthood.” I didn’t know what to call it. It was like, “Where am I now?” It didn’t seem to have a name.

I’m still working this out. Technically I am now a “senior citizen” and so I qulify for benefits of various sorts. But I don’t feel old. I feel like I’m just starting a new life.

More to come on this as I sort this out.

From Debra Lynn Dadd to Debra Redalia

I also have been going through a change of identity, from Debra Lynn Dadd to Debra Redalia.

I decided a year ago to change my name because I was completely changing the basic premise behind my work and I wanted a new identity for my new direction.

I had decided that my 65th birthday would be the day when I no longer continued to be Debra Lynn Dadd. And I would fully become Debra Redalia. The transition would be over.

What I didn’t realize was that Debra Lynn Dadd had a whole set of things about her—qualities, characteristics, problems, decisions and all the things that go into making the identity of a person. And now it was like I was stepping out of that identity and into a new identity of Debra Redalia.

I observed that my identity as Debra Lynn Dadd was born of the industrial world and assumptions that were given to me by my parents and family and society. Debra Redalia has her own identity born of Life and of her own choice.

On my 65th birthday, I became Debra Redalia. It was a birth into a new identity, a new way of being myself and functioning in the world.

From My Birth Body to My Created Body

Walking through the threshold of birthday 65, I was also moving from having an adult body to having a senior body. My body is now past the years of being reproductive and is on the decline rather than growth. It has limitations that it didn’t have before.

But at the same time, I am learning that I don’t have to accept those limitations. I can create my body with intention and actions that rejuvenate it.

For example, my body has been overweight since birth and I have struggled with losing weight for sixty-five years. For the past twenty years I’ve been struggling with elevated blood sugar. But now, in the month of June, I am now making tremendous progress losing weight and controlling my blood sugar. Not just on a temporary basis, but an entire re-orientation of how I eat and exercise. And not just for myself. I’ve also in the past two months started my Wholefood Cuisine food blog and written a book with my successful method for losing weight and controlling blood sugar. This method is so remarkable, it could end obesity and diabetes in the world.

This is a major shift for my body, and something I hadn’t been able to accomplish before. But now that I’ve walked through the wall from adult to senior, from Debra Lynn Dadd to Debra Redalia, I can do it.

From Affordable Care Act to Medicare

One very big disruption for my 65th birthday has been the change from obtaining health insurance through the Affordable Care Act to enforced Medicare.

The Affordable Care Act has been literally lifesaving for me. My cancer treatment earlier this year added up to more than $150,000. My copay was less than $1000. And for this I was paying a premium on $52/month.

My mandatory Medicare is adding up to around $300/month and I have to set up three different insurance policies, make three payments every month, and I’m still in the midst of this.

My conclusion from this experience is to just stay healthy.

From Industrial Economy to Life Economy

One of the reasons I retired from doing my toxics work was that my income was stuck in evaluating products of industry and recommending those industrial products that were not toxic. As long as my income was tied to the industrial world, I could change my lifestyle all I wanted, but I was still working in the industrial world.

Now I need to produce income based in the economy of Life and from the promotion and application of lifely principles. This is an enormous shift for me because it’s an entire re-orientation about money.

From Material to Spiritual

But the biggest change for me was the realization that I need to put my spiritual life first. This needs to be the foundation of everything I do.

Spirit, then Earth, then everything else.

I’ve already been transitioning to this for a long time, and increasingly so over the past few years. I’ve been reducing all the material things I’ve collected over a lifetime and establishing a simpler life. And I’ve been honing my spiritual viewpoint.

Now it’s time to be it openly in the world.

From Gathering to Distributing

I’ve spent my life gathering information about Life, in the background while living in the industrial system.

Now I seem to be coming to a point where it’s time to really bring order to everything and present a comprehensive viewpoint on the subject.

This past year I’ve been writing bits and pieces and establishing blogs, but for my 65th birthday I’ve actually set up a publishing structure to create books. It’s called Bookwright Books, a “wright” being one who creates something, like a playwright.

In the past I was a “writer” or an “author” where the information and the words to express that information were the thing.

But I’ve come to see that I love also laying the words on the pages and doing the graphic design. I see the book as a whole and want to do all the parts of creation and marketing. I want to create all parts of the communication.

In this way I am moving from being an industrial writer where a publisher buys my work and turns it into a product to sell—not an idea to make known in the world— to a presenter of lifely ideas that improve life. I’m reconceptualizing the whole idea of being a writer into being a communicator of an idea through various media, in ways that encourage practical application rather than just being information.

Rite of Passage

The day before my 65th birthday I could see that so much was changing that I wanted to do something specific to mark that moment of change.

We have rituals and ceremonies that indicate transitions from one stage to another in our lives such as graduations, weddings, and funerals, but I couldn’t think of or find a rite of passage to move from adulthood to being a senior.

So I created my own.

Larry and I went out on our deck to be outside under the trees and lit a beeswax candle.

I was born in this body at 8:44 pm, so I designed a simple ceremony to complete my life as Debra Lynn Dadd and begin my life as Debra Redalia at 8:44.

First I read To Everything There is a Season to acknowledge that everything has a purpose and a time and that material forms come and go. We spent a few minutes acknowledging my life and accomplishments as Debra Lynn Dadd and thanked her for her service to humanity.

And then at 8:44 we welcomed Debra Redalia into the world as a wise elder and opened the door for her to communicate her wisdom.

Then we shared a piece of cake since it was a birthday.

This was so the right thing to do. I feel oriented now to my new stage in life. There is much to learn and experience, but I know where I am in the scheme of this incarnation.

The World at Large

While all of these changes are going on in my individual life, it is all happening within the larger changes that are going on in our country and in the world.

The world as we have known it is changing. Old ways of thinking and structures are falling apart.

We have this huge opportunity now to create something different.

Foundation for the Future

Despite all these changes, I actually am feeling very secure instead of uncertain.

Because even in the midst of all these changes in our culture, there are things that don’t change and those are the laws of Life.

It’s time for me to get to work communicating what I know more broadly and establishing knowledge and wisdom in the world that can be used to bring us forward as a species.

There’s much more to come.

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Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight, we research, explore, observe, and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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DEBRA REDALIA, Co-Founder of Spirits Bright, became aware she was a spiritual being when her body was six years old, but didn't learn much about what that meant until she met soulmate Larry Redalia twenty-six years later. Together they have helped each other discover the characteristics of spirit and put them into practice in daily life. Since 2005, Debra and Larry have been writing Signs of Spirit stories—first person accounts of their true life adventures as spiritual belings. The are co-founders of Spirits Bright and The Signs of Spirit Project.
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