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Taking a Break to Reorganize


 
Well, after all the changes that have been happening over the past few weeks, over the weekend, it finally became clear to me that I need to get a new desktop computer. It had been having problems so I took it in and didn’t have a computer for four days so couldn’t write this week’s posts. And at the end of all that they couldn’t even diagnose the problem. So now it’s get a new computer and transfer all the data and reorganize everything.

So I’m going to take this opportunity for a few weeks of reorganization to set things up for a new phase of production for Lifely.
 

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SHIFT: Setting Up For Success


 
When I have big shifts happen in my life, I like to write about them here because we are living in a time where big shifts need to happen and I want to show that even though there are times when it seems like the sky is falling and we are on a roller coaster ride, in fact, we are making forward progress to something better.

And this is why I don’t even try to have a regular schedule for this blog because when these things happen, I just need to give them priority as movements of life—like earthquakes and hurricanes—and not try fight them because of a schedule.

The big intentional change I made that put this shift in motion was I decided to really learn to be a publisher of books.
 

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Whirlwind: When Life Picks You Up and Puts You Down in the Place You Intended—VERY FAST


 
The way it goes in Life is when we decide we want to be something—like a student at a particular school, or a mother or a ballet dancer or a chef—we embark upon a course and things begin to happen in that direction as a result of walking that particular path. As we take each step and learn more and more, we gain new abilities and understandings. We go, for example, from not being able to read music notation or knowing what the keys are on a piano, to having the ability to read music effortlessly and being able to play a complex piece of music flawlessly.

As Larry and I walk our Lifely path, things have been changing for us.

But this past month—and especially this past week—things have been changing very rapidly, more rapidly than I have ever experienced before.

So I just want to catch everyone up here with what has happened. Because things have progressed.
 

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Starting Over with a New Life


 
I just wanted to mark today as the first day of our new intentionally-created Lifely life.

The life I had that was based in the industrial world is over.

Though we have been working on this for a long time, and it’s not complete by any means, today is the “first day” because we have moved everything from the space where we had been living before, and now we need to create our living space entirely anew.
 

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BIG SHIFT: Stepping Into a World of My Own Creation

From time to time I take a break from my regularly scheduled programming to write a post about a shift that has occurred in my own personal life, as a result of my journey from industrialization to nature. Read about other shifts that have occurred since I started the Lifely blog in Jun 2019 here.

This past week there have been some big changes in my life, since completing the metamorphosis of my website into a new design.

This past week there have been some big changes in my life, since completing the metamorphosis of my website into a new design.

I want to tell you about the changes because this Lifely blog is, for me, as much about sharing with you a process of change from industrialization to nature as it is to orient you to Life itself.

But before I tell you what happened this week, I need to tell you what has come before.

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Larry and I have been together for thirty-three years.

We have had our ups and downs as all couples do. What is perhaps different about us is that we have been married twice and divorced twice to each other and are still together, making our way through life.

In 2013 we were living in Florida. We had divorced for the second time, and were living apart. Then Larry fell out of a tree while doing some tree work. He fell some twenty feet and broke his back and right leg. After several surgeries and months in the hospital it was time for him to go “home,” but my home was no longer his. And I could not take care of him 24 hours a day and also work to earn income. So it was decided he would go live in California with his parents and two siblings, where there were plenty of people to take care of him while he recovered. His last words to me as he was wheeled out the door were, “When I can walk, i’ll be back.”

 

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What Happened When I Started Upgrading The Lifely Group Websites


 
The past six weeks has been such a metamorphosis, I want to tell you what happened. I truly feel like I have gone from being a caterpillar to a butterfly.

After working on this website for almost a year and a half, I got to a point where I started to feel ready to put my ideas out in the world. But I wasn’t happy with the way the websites looked. I wanted to make a better first impression. So I just started considering this and what I needed and wanted.

Then all of a sudden someone contacted me to record a podcast that would air in February. This really made me want to upgrade the site.

And then one of my readers wanted to give me a donation. So suddenly I had enough money to hire the professional graphic designer and photographer that I needed. I knew who I wanted for the graphic design and easily found the perfect photographer.
 

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Next Steps for My New Future


 
Last Thursday, June 18, was my birthday.

My 65th birthday.

I’ve had birthdays before. Usually they come and go. Larry and I usually take the day off on our birthdays and do something special. We go out to eat. We have cake.

On my 16th birthday I got my driver’s license. But usually birthday’s just pass by.

So I wasn’t expecting what happened on my 65th birthday.

So many things shifted, it has taken almost a week for me to be able to even write them down.
 

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The End of the Pandemic—A Personal Shift

Just as a butterfly shelters-in-place in it’s cocoon and then emerges and flies in all it’s glory, so to are we emerging from our shelter-in-place with the opportunity to discover new aspects of ourselves and create a new lives.

The week before last, I had a major personal shift. I struggled to write about it and thought I had a finished post, but it didn’t feel right. Now I see there was more to the story, so here it is now.

On 29 April, I had a stunning realization: the industrial news organizations were broadcasting death. Every day we were getting reports of ever-increasing numbers of cases and numbers of deaths. And we are told how horrible this is and it’s all very dramatically reported in the new media. But they didn’t ever tell us how many of those stricken with the virus had recovered. [In fact, most sources of covid-19 statics didn’t include the recovery statistics, though we did find one source in particular that did.]

The thing is, this constant barrage of bad news about the pandemic only reinforces it. Because what we put our attention on is what happens.
 

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New Year, New Life, What Happened Over the Holidays

The last post I wrote for this blog was on 16 December 2019. And here it is 16 January 2020. Ha ha! I didn’t consciously know that when I sat down to write this. I had to look up the date of the last post.

I was planning to restart this blog with a new post on Monday, 6 January, but as I sat down to write my computer responded by having a panic attack. Really. A notification window came up with many lines of code that started with PANIC. So I called Tech Support and they told me to shut it down and take it to my nearest Apple Store right away. They even made an appointment for me. I had to leave my computer with them for three days. But when I got it back, they had completely wiped its hard disk clean and put in a new system. I had to spend a day uploading all my data and programs from my backup, but my computer is now like new. All the nagging problems are gone.

I learned a lesson from this experience.
 

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A Huge Shift

For several months I have been working intensively on The Lifely Group website, which will provide the background information on our lifely viewpoint. About a month ago I was closing in on being ready to go live with The Lifely Group website, but then just as I was about to work on it for a week and finish it up, there was the fire and evacuation and other obstacles came up.

Then on 6 November, I just felt like my life was stalled. It wasn’t that nothing was happening, it was that it seemed like everything I was doing had stopped. At sea, this is called the “doldrums”—areas of the ocean where the winds are calm and you just can’t get your boat moving. There is a path you are moving on to get from one place to another, but at the moment you are just sitting there wondering how to get things going.

So I decided that I was going to get all the doldrums moving. As I made a list and started working on them one by one, everything started moving. And then suddenly I had a big shift—no, a huge shift—that was entirely unexpected.

But before I tell you about the shift, I need to tell you what happened the day before the shift.
 

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Quite simply, this blog is about orienting ourselves and our lives to Life, instead of orienting ourselves and our lives to industrial consumerism. Here we are sharing our own journey. You come too. Read more...

Debra & Larry Redalia
lifepartners + soulmates

For more than 30 years we have been delving into the nature and activities of life together. Indeed, this has been and continues to be the very reason we are together. With delight, we research, explore, observe, and even wake each other up in the middle of the night to discuss how life functions and how we can function as life—even while living in the modern world. We each are different from the norm, but we are different in the same way, so we have been able to think outside of the ordinary together and find the extraordinary workings of life.

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